50 - How Parents Can Help Kids Struggling with Masturbation

On Oct. 16, 2025, Harvest USA posted an insightful article written by Julie Lowe. Staff member Ellen Dykas read the contents on their podcast, sharing ideas about how parents can help children and teens struggling with masturbation.

The podcast is less than 15 min., and the article is also a quick read, so we won’t cover all of it here. I was struck by their clear advice, with suggestions on what to say in age-appropriate ways. After setting a solid foundation, Lowe gives examples of these seven practical tips:

1. Start with Your Own Heart

2. Create a Safe Space for Conversation

3. Teach a Biblical View of the Body

4. Capture Thoughts and Desires

5. Avoid Shame-Based Language

6. Equip Them with Practical Strategies

7. Pray

Each of these is important. I especially liked the suggestions to help break addictive routines and to build healthier habits:

Children and teens struggling with masturbation need concrete help, not just “don’t do it.” Some ideas include:

· Remove triggers: limit access to media, devices, or private time that feeds temptation.

· Build accountability: encourage open check-ins with you or a trusted adult.

· Develop healthier habits: sports, music, service, or hobbies can redirect energy.

· Set bedtime routines: many struggles happen at night when children are alone. Encourage earlier bedtimes, reading Scripture before sleep, or keeping the door slightly open.

By addressing this problem directly, parents can encourage their children to depend on Jesus, teaching them a life-sustaining pattern that applies to any other difficulties they may face. Lowe writes, “Masturbation, like all struggles, reveals a deeper need—a Savior who satisfies our deepest longings. As parents model God’s patience and point their children to Christ, they plant seeds of hope that, by God’s grace, will bear fruit in purity and joy.”

“How Can Parents Help Children and Teens Struggling with Masturbation?” is a valuable resource for parents - be sure to check it out or pass it along to a parent you know.